Hi! My name is Chay (‘chai’) and I help the helpers find their confidence again by overcoming anxiety, perfectionism, and people-pleasing in order to prevent burnout and resentment.

Often when I’m meeting my clients (but really, they’re my people), they feel stuck. They remember what it was like to feel productive, effective, and able to take on the world. But, without realizing it, the busy life on the surface had been masking feelings of overwhelm, frustration, and resentment. We often take on jobs as helping professionals, though I have seen so many people who value giving and helping who are in various professions such as tech, law, engineering, and business – and they are still doing everything to consider others in their work and personal life. As helping professionals, we aren’t used to putting ourselves first. We can feel selfish, guilty, and even ashamed when it feels like we have to choose between ourselves and the needs of others.

Added layers form when we come from an Asian-American background. We have families and cultures that preach collectivism while we grew up in an individualistic society. We were raised with clashing values constantly – oftentimes, we feel torn between identities and values, leaving us confused and overwhelmed.

As a helping professional myself, I know firsthand how intense the conflict can feel, and I empathize every day with navigating the complex emotions. And as a therapist of helpers, I have seen time and time again how a safe space and the right tools can empower each person to direct their gifts of supporting others towards themselves in a balanced and healthy way, finding their way back to the life they love.

Working with a therapist who sees you, understands what you’ve gone through, and provides high-quality care is essential to you reaching your goals. I am honored to be that person for you, and I will walk alongside you every step of the way.